Me

 Today I want to talk about a favorite topic of mine. ME!! Just kidding I am not a vain person but I must say that I am a very informed person about the topic that is me. No one knows me like I know myself. So today I will give you 10 fun facts that will make you know me a little better.

1. I am a single mom of a 6 year old daughter. I also have a 24 year old son.  My daughter was unexpected surprise when I was 40. She changed my life and I am thankful everyday for the gift she brought.

2. I survive on coffee. I love coffee a little more than I probably should. Its the first thing I grab when I wake up.

3. My favorite color is purple. I call it the happy color!

4. I am big time over thinker. I have to analyze every little and beat it do death in my brain. Which leads to me suffering from depression and anxiety all my life.

5. My favorite things to do when I have some free time is just binge watch some tv or get lost in a good book. I just do not people very well. 

6. I can listen to Taylor Swift everyday and never get tired of her music. Every song seems to reasonate with me.

7. I take my hot bubble baths seriously! They can be time consuming and very routine with candles and my glass of wine.

8. My 2023 ultimate goal is to be a home owner! 

9. I am a perfectionist and it is a fault because it stops me from trying  90 percent of my life.

10. My current interest is learning about crystals and essential oils and the part they play in my life.

Now I want to hear about some of your fun facts. I want to get to know the people that are following me.

My Money

 I love to work hard, even as a teenager I found myself a workaholic. I loved the stress and exhaustion. I thrived when my life was consumed by nothing but work. That is why as a CNA I was always the happiest because it was long work days with nothing but maybe a day or two off a week. That was my enviroment.

When I became a single parent I realized that it would be harder to keep that kind of lifestyle and be the parent that my daughter needed. I do not want to put her in daycare for over 40 hours a week and miss out on her growing up. That is when I realized I could be my own boss and make my own schedule.

I love doing side gigs because not only do I choose my own schedule but I make more the minuimum wage and can also still be that workaholic that I love to be. I work my schedule around my daughter's schedule so I can be present in her life for the most important moments.

My newest and so far favorite gig is doing Lyft. I get to drive others around and get paid for it. I knew this would be my gig after working for several cab companies. I get paid to venture out and listen to music. It does not get any better than that.

My other favorite gig is Papa Pal. I help seniors in their home by cooking,cleaning or running errands. I have always had a passion for the elderly so this is one I love to do.

Finally I do Handy Pro also. I clean other peoples homes. I have always love to clean other peoples homes and being to walk out the door knowing they are getting more time to spend with their family or even give themselves some self care time.

I would love to help you get started in any of these gigs are answer any questions you may have!

My email is always open malisa.karn@gmail.com.

My 2023

 Not long and 2022 will just be another year in the past. I will not miss it and ready to start 2023.  It seemed like a long year with lots of spiritual growth that has yet to happen. I know I am not the same person I was in 2021. I want to start 2023 without the purpose and goals. I want to look back next year at this time and say "Yes I did it" I want to see progress and look back with pride.

My first goal is to have lost at least 25 pounds. I am tired of being in pain and exhausted. I feel like everything is a chore. I want my energy back. I know this goal will take lots of hard work and discipline. The first step is working out at 3 times a week. I am also giving up Mountian Dew and in turn drinking more water through out the day. I also want to cut back my sugar intake to make sure I do not get diabetes.

My second goal is to get my credit score where it should be. I feel at 47 I should have no problem getting a mortgage or newer car. This will basically mean lots of working hard and not spending. If is not paying for a bill or current debt I will save it. 

I truly believe both are easily attained through focus and determination. What thinks are you looking forward to achieve in 2023?

Self Care Is Important

 I totally believe every person needs self care in their life. When you put yourself on the back burner everyday you eventually will get burned out out, literally. As a single mom this can happen fast.

I am a side gig worker. I do it because it gives me more flexibility as a single mom, It also always me the chance to work harder also. So it is very easy to get so involved in working I forget self care. I refuse to allow myself to think working is self care. So I have made a list of things I do to give myself "Me" time.

1. First off is taking advantaging of early morning hours. I love getting up before everyone else and just enjoying some coffee and doing whatever it is that I would love to do.

2. Second is my end of day routine of a hot bath. It helps me unwind. I put on some music, candles and even a glass of wine. Every few days I spoil myself with a good homemade facial. I am an Avon Rep so I have my favorite products.

3. Journaling or blogging is another favorite past time of mine. I just go into my office and block out the world and get lost into writing. Sometimes when I dont have anything to write I get out my adult coloring books and let my brain just relax for awhile.

4. Finally I have started a local moms group on Facebook. I plan on having coffee klutches, wine nights and book clubs to get out and socialize more.

I would love to hear how you find your "Me" time!

Why Do I have a Blog?

 I have decided to start blogging. Why well that is a good question. I guess there are many reasons why and maybe they are not even good reasons. But the main reason I feel is a good one by itself. I am blogging for myself. I am an ambitious overthinker. I want to do it all but my brain looks to convince me that is not possible and down the rabbit hole I go.

My blog will be focused on how I deal with my depression and anxiety. Everyday for me is a journey and sometimes overwhelming. I would love to be one of those people that can plan and have routines and life is smooth. Well my thinking doesnt like that for some reason. I battle thoughts all day and sometimes I get so exhausted I just zone out in front of the tv or end up sleeping. 

I can definately say this blog will not follow any set pattern or niche. It will be what it will be. That works well for me because I do not fit into box and can not expect my blog to either. I do not want to set it up for failure by labeling it.

So I hope you will follow me. Just make sure to buckle up and keep your hands inside the cart at all times.